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  The Blame Game

by Bridgitte Krupke

It's never easy to be told by a coworker or superior that you have made a mistake. Especially, when you are not the one responsible for the mistake. 

Chances are at some point you have been a player in the Blame Game. A mistake occurs and everyone ducks for cover. Eventually, when the smoke clears people come out of the rubble to analyze what happened. 

However, when it is unclear as to the reason for the mistake the following  two scenarios generally occur: The Finger Pointing  Scenario and Oops, I Goofed.

The Finger Pointing Party

A co-worker has several years seniority and has taken on the role of showing you the ropes. Your co-worker makes a mistake and when reprimanded places the blame on you. Now you have 2 problems: you are  furious with your co-worker  and your superiors think you have made a mistake.

So what do you do? 

One of the worst things that you can do is to immediately  charge up to the supervisor and  insist that your co-worker is the real culprit.  Remember your main objective is to clear your name not to cause an office war!

Clearing your Name 

Oops I Goofed!

Alright, this time you did make a mistake. You forgot to implement the changes your client requested. To make  matters worse, your client's way of dealing with problems is to challenge the limits of his vocal chords. Getting yelled at can put anyone on the defensive and make the "ready to rumble".

 I used to burst into tears each time I got yelled at. After awhile, I began focusing  on something else during a tirade. Once the yelling stopped, I was able to diffuse the situation without the waterworks.

Diffusing a volatile situation:

The last thing you want to do with clients and crew is to establish a reputation for being unreliable or unstable.